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October 2009 
Life leads me to my opposite self
Posted on Feb 7th, 2007
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Leendert
Leendert
Most of the time I can accept one side of a polarity and express it, but at the same time I can have serious problems with the "other" side of it. This makes me look for shelter in the middle often where I think it's safe, afraid of expressing any extremities. If I identify with one polarity, life is pushing me into the opposite direction. If I feel safe in the middle area, it forces me in both directions, or in either direction, arbitrarily. In many cases this process happens trough relations . The people with whom I connect force me to often see parts of myself I didn't learn to express yet.
Leendert van Velsen
Leendert van Velsen
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I love the way you put that….”The people with whom I connect force me to see parts of myself I didnt learn to express yet.”
I hadnt thought of that quite like that before…instead of it seeming as if I am forced to see parts of myself I dont like…I can see how it can be that I am seeing a part of myself that I am unfamiliar with and so therefore dont really know how to express it. I can see how that would make me feel inept and awkward and very uncomfortable.
Thanks for helping me see that part of relationships in a whole new light!
Robin
I loved that part too, Robin. In fact, I’ve often heard that we make “soul agreements” with others on a spirit-level so they will come into our lives, stretch us, help us to experience more the “good” and “bad” that is inside of us and, ultimately, help us to get closer to our True Hearts. So, often times, it’s the most challenging of relationships that end up being our biggest blessings because they bring us the most significant learning opportunities. Go figure!