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October 2009 
The Challenge of my time
Posted on Aug 25th, 2007
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Leendert
Leendert
One year ago:
Concerning male and female role patterns my times are challenging AND confusing. I am a single parent raising my 4 year old girl for 50 % of the time combining this with a 5 day workweek :) Every other week I have a weekend for myself, time-off.
Now today this is more common then 30 years ago, but still this is a situation very few people really understand. People are still very locked up in the traditional role patterns, even when today in my society, both man and woman can break out of this. It is even very confusing. How can I be a loving mother and a strong powerful father at the same time?
I have found out I can be this because I want to. It is in my powerful nature to speak to the inside mother and father I have been raised by when I was a little kid. They where / are there all the time. They are inside of my archetypes. I only have to be not a shamed of my feminine qualities. Because I KNOW I have powerful manly aggressive qualities I must be able to find a balance so I can become both, soft but hard, like water, out of a Supra mental approach, whenever one quality is appropriate.
So, I have been trying to find a balance between my masculine and feminine energies and I try to learn from the experience. Really? YEAH!
Leendert van Velsen
Concerning male and female role patterns my times are challenging AND confusing. I am a single parent raising my 4 year old girl for 50 % of the time combining this with a 5 day workweek :) Every other week I have a weekend for myself, time-off.
Now today this is more common then 30 years ago, but still this is a situation very few people really understand. People are still very locked up in the traditional role patterns, even when today in my society, both man and woman can break out of this. It is even very confusing. How can I be a loving mother and a strong powerful father at the same time?
I have found out I can be this because I want to. It is in my powerful nature to speak to the inside mother and father I have been raised by when I was a little kid. They where / are there all the time. They are inside of my archetypes. I only have to be not a shamed of my feminine qualities. Because I KNOW I have powerful manly aggressive qualities I must be able to find a balance so I can become both, soft but hard, like water, out of a Supra mental approach, whenever one quality is appropriate.
So, I have been trying to find a balance between my masculine and feminine energies and I try to learn from the experience. Really? YEAH!
Leendert van Velsen
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What a gift you give Robin in this, Leendert. Think how balanced HER idea of what is gender appropriate will be based on your example.
Well thank you Antenna, I didn't look at it from that direction before….I do believe I have to compensate for the loss of a solid marriage, the bases of a solid family that every child needs. I am sad about the fact that at the moment I cannot provide this family for my daughter and for my self, that's why I need to work hard and harder to make it all work some how and then maybe in the future it will change….
And adding to Antenna's perspective, Leendert, you are getting a great opportunity to be a 21st century human- masculinity-feminity merging/intertwining! A more balanced person.